I have the habit of overthinking, you probably know that because I write a lot and of course, I have to think a lot to write a lot. That is not the only excuse, I think a lot even if I don’t write. I am an over-thinker. I think about what other people think, why do we have uncountable number of feelings, why are we having difficult time processing those feelings, and why do we find it hard to accept other’s feelings.
A smile can do wonders but we hesitate a lot to smile. When it comes to strangers, a smile can make their day better and your day better. Imagine when a stranger smiles at you and you smile back, we have to feel better. We feel better but only in imagination. In reality, a smile from a stranger is the most scariest thing these days. We feel they are sending a flirtorious message through that smile and we are afraid to smile back because we think we are sending them a signal. Sometimes, we think they are going to approach you when you smile back and you don’t want that to happen. If a child smiles at us, then we have no problem in smiling back but the parents of the child definitely has a problem. They may think you are some kind of child abuser. We are afraid to smile. A smile is supposed to make you feel better, not threatened. So, atleast try and smile to the people you know. They may think you are crazy for smiling but craziness is what we all need to get past a tough day which is daily situation in our lives these times.
The next thing we are hesitant about is apology. Even if we know we hurt someone, we are hesitant to say sorry because we think we did’nt do anything wrong. We might not have done anything wrong, the mistake may be that of other person’s. We always think, “Why do I have to apologise when I have done nothing wrong?” I have thought that many times myself. Why do I have to apologise? Why? Because the other person might feel too guilty even to face you, or they might not realise where they went wrong or how it affected you. You may ask, ” What does this have to do with me apologising?” You are right, this has nothing to do with your apology but we react in such a way that requires our apology. If a person commits a mistake knowingly or unkowingly, we react in a way where we snap at them, yell at them or stop talking suddenly or we might distance ourselves from them. We might not given them a chance to realise what they did. We should apologise for not giving them a chance to realise what they have done. We have to apologise for letting them make that mistake. We have to apologise for not being there for them to correct their mistakes. We have apologise for not forgiving them, we have to apologise for not giving them another chance. Ask sorry and explain how their actions hurt you. They may or may not realise their mistake but they will realise your love for them and your bond will become stronger. Don’t hesitate to ask sorry. If you are at the guilty side, then don’t ever think about hesitating to apologise. Your hestiation is not worth losing someone.
Don’t hesitate to tell the truth. Our lives are too short wasting our times deceiving someone with lies. We may have feelings for someone and by the thought of losing them or by the thought of rejection, we hesitate to tell them the truth. I hate the movie ’96’ (I am sorry fans) because in that movie Ram after one incident, hesitates his whole life to confront Janu. They both led their lives not so greatly. He had many situations and a whole lifetime to ask her why she sent such a message through that girl but he hesitated due to his fears. Their life might have been a beautiful rom-com, instead they led not-so-good lives and cried out when they finally let go of hesitations. This is why I love VTV a lot because Karthik never hesitated to tell Jessi how he felt. Both the love stories did not end well but Ram did not have a love story to tell, Karthik has his moments with Jessi. He tried and failed. I would rather try and fail like karthik than hesitate and fail like Ram. You never know what will happen but when you try without hesitation, you will atleat know you tried and you can have peace with that.
But there are some people or many people, who can’t accept the decision the other person makes. I might quote several movies for that but you can imagine a situation that has happened in your life. When someone do not agree with your point even in some group discussions about some general topics which are completely irrelevant to our lives like “Is that actor’s movie good or bad?”, we take it so personally and start roasting the other person personally other than talking about the “most” useful topic. You realise that the “most” word was sarcastic, right?
When you have had a bad day or mood-off and you shouted at someone for no reason, don’t hesitate to ask sorry to them. When someone shouts at you for no reason, then don’t hesitate to make them feel better. They may say they don’t need your help but be there and make sure you are not angry at them. They need you, they might not say it but once their mood changes from bad to okay, they will search for you. If you are there and smile at them, they will come to you ask sorry and the day will be great for both of you. But when you decide to be angry at them, when they come back to you, your anger may make them hesitate to even come close to you. They will start avoiding you then. Don’t ever hesitate to forgive. Don’t hesitate to spread love and positivity. Don’t hesitate to say no to things that make you comfortable or things that are not right. Don’t hesitate to let go of anger, jealousy and other negative impacts. Don’t hesitate to remind people you love that you are there with them. Don’t hesitate to love yourself.
Love all.
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